Marketing Dopamine • October 2, 2026
Activity Is Not Community
For months, I did LinkedIn the way everyone says you should.
Fifteen minutes a day reading other people’s posts and leaving thoughtful comments. Two posts of my own every week, Tuesdays and Thursdays, without fail. If consistency were the whole answer, I had it covered.
Then I stepped back and looked at what all that effort had built. Plenty of activity. Very little community.
That was hard to admit, especially for someone who writes about consistency as the foundation of trust.
Activity tells you that you showed up. It does not tell you whether anyone is gathering around you.
Here is what I think happened. Every comment and every post delivered a small reward the moment it went out. A task completed. A box checked. That feeling is real, and it is exactly the feeling I write about in Marketing Dopamine. The reward arrives before the result does, and it is easy to mistake one for the other.
Community does not form because someone is busy nearby. It forms when people start to recognize each other, return to each other, and expect something from each other. Activity can lead there. It does not guarantee it.
So I am asking a different question now. Not whether I showed up, but who I am actually getting to know.
The goal was never to be seen more often. It was to be known by the right people.
Consistency still matters. It just has to be pointed at relationships, not at the calendar.
Lisa Carmichael is the author of The Marketing Dopamine Workbook: From Awareness to Action, available now, a companion to her book Marketing Dopamine: What Your Brain Is Really Doing When You Think You’re Building a Business, coming soon. Learn more at marketingdopamine.com
I know what you mean. I get it. I like to show up and being consistent. That’s my goal for this challenge and going by the rules. By now I know some of our fellow bloggers fairly well. So I have community. I know which ones will return readings and which ones won’t. But I still like to reach out if I can. I don’t like to go for tit for tat.
Agree the tit for tat never works. Glad you get it.
I love this perspective of “Not whether I showed up, but who I am actually getting to know.” Thank you for sharing!
It’s so true. Thank you!
This really resonated with me. There is such a difference between showing up consistently and actually building meaningful relationships with the people who are showing up alongside us. 💜
Hi Megan, BuWalking side-by-side allows the relationships to become more solid.